Her Blog titled "Is Flirting Harmless"
Flirt-To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
Does this at all sound harmless?! Not to me. Some people feel it's harmless while others will take it and run with it. It tells someone that you like them or that you want them in my opinion. What is harmless flirting? Of course, it won't hurt. But it will indeed evoke feelings in some sort of manner.
The whole method of flirting is not that hard. You get the batty eyes. Your voice is so seductive. You make light jokes about dumb things. There is no doubt there are subtle hints about the attractiveness or sexual tension between the party of two. It can be obvious, sometimes. And sometimes, people get that it is just "harmless".
When you flirt, what message are you trying to give? Or do you think of this? I know some people do it to get what they want. Some people do it to tell that special someone they like them. Some people just do it with out realizing they are doing it at all. Does this mean they like the person they are flirting with, or that they can't help their selves around the person of the opposite sex? Don't know.
I don't feel it's fair to harmlessly flirt. When you flirt, you are tapping into someone's emotions. Saying, "Hey, I like you. You are sexy. I want you soooo super bad." Not, "Hey, I'm harmlessly flirting. We're still cool, right?" I just think that some people should actually think before they do it. Flirting can be taken literally sometimes. If you know someone may like you DON'T DO IT. Lol.
So, I'm asking the Xanga nation, is there a such thing as harmless flirting?
Here's My Reply
IMO it makes the conversation more interesting. especially when statements are Indirect innuendos. It all depends on who the Flirt is and who are they flirting with. for example if its someone I've know for a while; whether attracted to them or not, I'd say things like .. "Whats goin' on Sexy?" ..just too see how they'd respond because usually I'd expect a responce like "eeeew" or some crazy things in return.
I think its wrong for someone to play with ones emotions though, Although Flirting is sort of a lead on.. The only way you'd really be playing with someoones emotion if u are giving the impression that you want to be in a relationship with that person.. and they believe so too. yet you steady turn them away when they start to mention dating situations and things like that .
its wild ..
after reading, I replied to her by Messenger, so she asked me to reply at xanga. Unfortunately I Couldn't..
With that said.. Here's something completely unrelated to the above Quote
.. I'm still currently IMing Ashley, she said that when we first started being cool, She thought I wouldn't want to talk to her because she had the impression that I was probably the type that was "Too Cool" for her.. .. Well In Her Words I told her How I am with females.. which basically as for me it takes me a while to associate with any female . whether online or in public places. i could be in a group convo and would not talk nor introduce myself. she mentioned my brother being the same way. and I said.. Yeah thats just how we are.
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As for me, its just the same reason I can't talk to females nor pursue the one im interested in. Its not only the Rejection part but its that I Think I'd either say too much or nor say enough. And then I'd feel that I'm annoying that person. Yet everybody would know who I like, because I talk to them about it. For Example. I even told My buddy I had a Crush on her and well, she was flattered but after that I had nothing more to say, because then i'd feel that im Bothering her. and I still feel that way. As for me. I try to be good to everybody. I'm just looking for a girl thats gonna be good to me ..
With that said.. I got some cleaning up to do.. So Later yall
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